New Beginnings

The start of the year (especially a school year) begins with many aspirations, dreams and intentions. On the surface a new year is clean. It is the kind of beginning you can schedule: new diary, new term, new haircut, new uniform, new shoes that still squeak a little. But real beginnings are seldom neat. They arrive more like weather than stationery. You feel the pressure shift before you see the rain. It arrives after a door closes that you didn’t want closed, or after a version of yourself collapses under the weight of being ‘fine.’ It arrives when you realise you cannot keep living on yesterday’s fuel.

There is a strange old law in Deuteronomy 21, about a body found in a field – an unsolved death, no known perpetrator, no neat moral conclusion. How easy would this to be swallowed by silence. There’s no-one to put on trial, no closure, no narrative of heroism to tidy it up.

But the law refuses to let the community move on as normal.

The elders measure which town is closest. The leaders of that nearest town have to step forward. They bring a young heifer to a valley with running water, to a place that has not been worked. They wash their hands over the animal and speak words that matter more than they probably realise:

This was not our doing… do not let innocent blood remain among your people.

It is a communal confession for a sin no one can pin to a single person. In this time and in this place a fresh start is when a community has the courage to name what cannot be solved, to grieve what cannot be explained, and to accept responsibility for the kind of world they are creating – even when they did not commit the crime.

God builds beginnings out of truth-telling. Not just personal truth-telling – communal truth-telling.

I refer to this because there are things that fracture a family, a staffroom, a school, a parish, a nation, and nobody can quite locate the moment it began. There is no single culprit, no single incident, no simple villain. Just a slow accumulation of fatigue and sharpness, distrust and defensiveness, unspoken grief and unprocessed stress.

And then we try to start again with pep? We write the new goals. We set the new routines. We post the new mantra.

But Deuteronomy whispers: you cannot start again without washing your hands in running water. Not as theatre. As a sacrament of accountability.

There is something that resonates in my intrinsically Catholic heart about this obscure old law. Catholic theology is (mostly) honest about fracture. Think about Mass and the moment we pause and acknowledge our sins asking – Lord, have mercy. We are not morbid. We are realistic. We know that mercy is not an accessory. Mercy is the climate in which human beings can be remade.

Running water matters because it moves. It is not stagnant. It is not the kind of water you can keep in a jar and control. Running water is honest water. It doesn’t let you freeze the moment and curate the narrative. Isn’t that a bit like grace? Grace does not simply wipe the slate clean like a cosmic whiteboard. Grace moves through what is real. Grace runs through the places we would rather keep sealed. Grace is God saying, I can make something new here, if you are willing.

The modern myth of fresh start is that you can begin again without cost. Just decide. Just manifest. Just declutter. Just change your mindset.

But Scripture is more demanding (and more tender) than that. In the Bible, new beginnings usually require one or more of the following:

  • leaving something you wanted to keep
  • telling the truth you wanted to avoid
  • accepting a responsibility you didn’t choose
  • waiting longer than you hoped
  • walking forward without a map

Which is why the first Christians did not speak about starting over as a vibe. They spoke about conversion. They spoke about metanoia – a deep turning. A reorientation of the self, not a makeover of the surface. It is essentially a conversion of heart, not a make-over.

Deuteronomy’s valley ritual is an ancient way of saying: innocent blood changes the soil. Violence, neglect, cruelty, indifference – these things don’t vanish because time passes. They stain the ground. They shape the atmosphere. They alter what grows next. Therefore, the community must respond, even when nobody gets to feel heroic about it.

Here is the Catholic heart of it: God is not afraid of the parts of your life that feel unresolved.

Not the conflict that never got the ending you needed.
Not the grief that keeps resurfacing like a tide.
Not the guilt that is complicated because you did not mean to, but you still did it.
Not the weariness that makes you look at a new day and feel nothing but heaviness.

God does not wait until your story is tidy to begin again with you.

In fact, the pattern of salvation is that God begins again precisely where things are untidy. That is what the Incarnation is: God entering the unresolved world, not hovering above it giving motivational speeches.

And that is what the Cross is: God taking responsibility for what we cannot fix, without pretending it isn’t there.

And that is what the Resurrection is: God insisting that the final word is not fracture, not failure, not blood in the field, not the unsolved.

The final word is life.

So here is the quiet invitation, if you are standing at the edge of a new year, new stage. Try a Deuteronomy kind of beginning. Not perfection. Start with running water.

Let grace move through what is real.

Ask yourself, gently but honestly:

  • What has happened here that I have tried to move past without naming?
  • Where am I carrying something unresolved that needs mercy, not denial?
  • What responsibility am I being asked to accept, not because I am guilty, but because I belong to a community?
  • What would it look like to begin again in truth, rather than in performance?

And then do the most Catholic thing you can do: bring it to God.

Not as a report or a list. As a surrender. Because fresh starts in the Christian life are not self-generated. They are received. They arrive when God gives you courage to stand in the valley, tell the truth, and discover that mercy is not a weakness. Mercy is the way God makes tomorrow possible.

So, God of living water, begin again in us.
In our classrooms and corridors,
wash what we have carried in silence,
heal what we have learned to tolerate,
and make us brave enough for Truth
so mercy can remake us.

Go gently.

The Shape of Blessing – A reflection on the Beatitudes in the Gospel of Matthew (5:1-12)

The Beatitudes can sound like soft words for a hard world.

Blessed are the poor? The mourning? The meek?

They’re not the ones we usually call successful. They’re not trending. They don’t win.

And yet Jesus names them blessed.

This blessing isn’t sentiment. It’s not about reward, or being good enough, or holding it all together. It’s about becoming attuned to the truth of how God sees, how God acts, and how grace moves quietly through the world.

The Beatitudes invite us into a strange kind of wisdom. One that says we meet God most fully not when we are strong, but when we are open. Not when we win, but when we give ourselves away. It is a way of seeing that asks us to trust that hidden things matter. That mercy is strength. That longing is holy. That peace is not the absence of conflict, but the presence of courage.

In a school community, this wisdom has flesh. It shows up in the patient tone we choose even when we’re tired or in the middle of a heat wave with an inefficient air-conditioner. It’s in the effort to keep relationships whole, when it would be easier to shut down. It’s in the hope we hold on behalf of young people who can’t yet see it for themselves. The hope we know is that vital thread woven through the fabric of our lives.

To live the Beatitudes is to take the shape of Christ in the ordinary, in the faces we encounter. It is not easy. But it is beautiful. Because this way of blessing draws us into the deeper joy we were made for, the kind that doesn’t depend on applause or achievement, but on love lived freely, quietly, faithfully.

This is how the Kingdom comes. And it begins here.

Heavenly Father

As we draw on the words of Matthew and the teaching of Jesus may we find ourselves ever humbled to aspire. May our weakness lead us to openness to your strength. In our interactions may we live by the example and teaching of Your Son Jesus.

Amen.

Praying With Pope Leo: A Quiet Act of Communion

There is something profoundly countercultural about prayer that is slow, deliberate, and shared.

In a world that fractures attention and rewards immediacy, the Pray with the Pope initiative invites us into a different posture altogether: one of attentiveness, solidarity, and hope. Each month, Pope Leo shares a specific prayer intention. January calls us to pray with the Word of God. Timely perhaps, have we put our Bibles on shelves somewhat and is it time to revisit these words more frequently than at Sunday Mass? The messages in Scripture remain deeply human and call us to pray for migrants, for the elderly, for families under strain, for those on the margins of society, for peace in places the news cycle has already moved past. And in doing so, he gently reminds us that prayer is never meant to be private insulation from the world’s pain, but a way of standing within it. It also calls us to actively seek the Word of God in our lives.

To pray with Pope Leo is not to outsource prayer to Rome, nor to align ourselves uncritically with institutional authority. Rather, it is to participate in a global act of listening, to allow the joys and sufferings of the world to interrupt our personal concerns, and to shape the horizon of our prayer. It is a reminder that Catholic prayer has always been catholic in the truest sense: universal, outward-facing, expansive.

There is also something quietly pastoral about this initiative. Pope Leo does not ask us to solve the world’s problems in prayer, nor to carry the unbearable weight of responsibility alone. He simply asks us to pray together. In naming an intention, he names a concern that might otherwise remain invisible, or feel too overwhelming to hold. Prayer, here, becomes an act of shared bearing, a way of saying, you are not alone, even when solutions feel distant or fragile.

From a theological perspective, this is deeply incarnational. The intentions are grounded in real bodies, real communities, real wounds. They echo the Gospel insistence that God is found not at a distance from human struggle, but within it. When we pray with Pope Leo for those who are excluded, forgotten, or fearful, we are drawn back to the God who pitches a tent among us, who listens before speaking, who accompanies rather than commands.

And perhaps this is where the initiative is most powerful: it forms us. Over time, praying monthly intentions shapes our moral imagination. It stretches our compassion beyond what is familiar. It teaches us to notice who is missing from our prayers, and why. In this way, Pray with the Pope is not simply a devotional exercise; it is a school of the heart.

In classrooms, staffrooms, kitchens, and quiet bedrooms, this shared prayer becomes a thread of communion, often unseen, but real nonetheless. It binds the local to the global, the personal to the political, the ordinary to the sacred. It reminds us that prayer is not an escape from responsibility, but one of the ways responsibility is lovingly sustained.

To pray with Pope Leo, then, is to practice hope. Not optimism. Hope. The kind that refuses to look away. The kind that believes God is already at work in the very places we are tempted to despair. The kind that trusts that even our small, imperfect prayers are gathered into something larger than ourselves.

And that, perhaps, is grace enough for now.

A new year arrives

New Year’s Day arrives with its familiar confidence, as though time itself is a clean page and we are simply meant to write more neatly this time, but I have discovered, yet again, that grief does not respect the stationery of the calendar, and love does not pack itself away just because the date has changed.

This year turned on a hinge I did not choose. My dog died suddenly, and with him went an entire small world of ordinary consolations: the soft punctuation of footsteps behind me, the way a body can say “you are not alone” without speaking, the humble sacrament of being met at the door as though I were a person worth celebrating even on the days I felt unremarkable. I keep catching myself listening for him, which is one of the strange mercies of love – it continues to reach for what it has lost, not because it is foolish, but because it is faithful.

And then there was the loss of our chaplain, Fr Peter, another grief I did not anticipate holding this year. There are priests who perform a role, and then there are priests who become a kind of shelter: the one who knows the names behind the job titles, who can read a room before a word is spoken, who blesses the ordinary chaos of school life without needing to be noticed for it. I keep thinking about how pastoral presence is rarely dramatic; it is faithful, it is consistent, it is quietly brave. When someone like that is gone, you don’t only grieve the person, you grieve the particular way God came near through him.

And yet, the same year that stole something tender also gave me something astonishing: my daughter turned 21, and I watched her stand at the edge of adulthood with that luminous mixture of confidence and vulnerability that reminds you, as a mother, that letting go is not an event but a vocation. I wanted to hold the moment still: her laugh, her presence, the sheer fact of her; while knowing that the point of mothering was never possession, only blessing; only release; only love that learns how to widen.

Somewhere in the midst of all this I presented at three conferences, internationally, and I felt the peculiar tension of speaking about meaning while actively living the kind of experience that makes meaning feel less like an argument and more like a plea. I learned so much this year: about my field, about my voice, about what it costs to bring the mind and heart to the same table and I have also learned that the most important truths are often not the ones we can footnote, but the ones we can only carry.

And there was joy this year too: the kind that doesn’t cancel grief, but somehow makes the heart larger. I got to celebrate my aunt’s 90th birthday, and it felt like standing inside a living archive of family love: stories that have survived, the familiar cadence of laughter that has outlasted so much, the quiet dignity of a life faithfully lived. Ninety years does not look like perfection; it looks like endurance, humour, forgiveness practised over time, and the slow accumulation of ordinary goodness. I found myself grateful not only for her age, but for what her presence teaches me about time that holiness is often less about intensity than it is about staying, about remaining, about loving people over decades rather than moments.

And in one of those moments that felt almost too unlikely to belong to my own year, I met Cardinal Timothy Radcliffe. I expected something impressive, perhaps a little distant the way we sometimes imagine Church figures must be but what struck me was the simplicity of his presence, the sense that wisdom can be both intellectually serious and gently human at the same time. It felt like encountering the Church at its best: not power performing itself, but faith made hospitable; not certainty used as a weapon, but truth offered with patience. I carried that encounter with me afterwards, as if it were a small counterweight to the year’s losses a reminder that the life of the mind and the life of the Spirit are not competing loyalties, and that God still gives companions along the way, even as others are taken.

And in the midst of it all, my wine collection grew, which sounds, on paper, like a trivial detail, but it hasn’t felt trivial to me. Wine is one of the ways I remember that God meets us through matter: through taste, through time, through the slow alchemy of patience and craft. There is something almost monastic about it, the way a good bottle asks you not to rush, the way it rewards attention, the way it gathers people into conversation rather than performance. This year I found myself drawn to that kind of pleasure not as escape, but as a small act of resistance against numbness; a way of saying that grief does not get to confiscate delight, and that celebration is not betrayal.

I also hit 300 Pilates classes this year, which surprised me more than anyone. It has become, quietly, one of the most honest spiritual practices I have – not because it is pious, but because it is embodied, and therefore uncompromising. Pilates doesn’t let me live only in my head, where I can make meaning out of anything if I try hard enough; it pulls me back into muscle and breath and limitation (and I am limited) and the strange humility of being a creature. There is something reverent about that: the reminder that strength is built slowly, by returning, and that steadiness can be a form of faithfulness. In a year where so much felt sudden and out of my control, the simple discipline of showing up became its own kind of prayer.

So I am not entering this new year with resolutions sharp enough to cut myself on, nor with the illusion that I can manage my way into peace. I am entering it with a quieter intention: to practice fidelity, fidelity to grief, fidelity to joy, fidelity to the slow work of God who does not demand that I be “over it” before He will meet me. If the Gospel shows us anything, it is that God does not stand at a safe distance from human loss; He steps into it, weeps within it, and then – without rushing – begins the long work of resurrection.

Christ who weeps with us and walks ahead of us, hold what I cannot hold. Bless my daughter in her becoming. Receive my beloved companion into Your mercy. And teach me, in this new year, the steady courage of love – love that grieves, love that celebrates, love that keeps faith with the ordinary days where grace quietly lives. Amen.

When the candles are interrupted

This year, Advent arrives with a bruise. In the midst of a season that teaches us to watch, to wait, and to practise the small disciplines of hope, Australia has become a nation of grief. A mass shooting at Bondi Beach struck people gathered for a Hanukkah celebration, killing 15 and injuring many others. Today, Sunday 21 December 2025, has been named a Day of Reflection to honour those who died and to express solidarity with Australia’s Jewish community. So, I pause and reflect.

Hanukkah is a feast of light and Advent is a season of light, and the collision of those realities raises a question: what kind of world is this, where people cannot gather in peace to remember, to sing, to light candles, and to be together without fear? If you are Jewish and reading this, I want to say simply and plainly that I am sorry, not in a vague, weightless way, but in the concrete way that means this should not have happened, you should have been safe, and your celebration should never have been treated as a target. And if you are Catholic and reading this, I think we need to resist the temptation to turn Christmas into a soft blanket we pull over reality, because the Incarnation does not deny darkness; it insists on entering it.

One of the most persistent temptations in religious life is the speed with which we move toward meaning, as though tragedy must become ‘useful’ in order to be held, or as though the correct theological sentence can protect us from the sheer disorienting helplessness of grief. Scripture does not teach us that speed is holy. The Bible gives us lament as a form of fidelity: psalms that protest, prayers that tremble, and voices that refuse to baptise suffering with easy explanations. Do you notice how grief is not only an idea but a bodily reality, how fear migrates into shoulders and stomachs, how mourning changes the texture of time, and how trauma can become a kind of second liturgy, an involuntary vigilance that reshapes the way a person enters public space. It also raises a question that is not abstract: who is being asked to carry the cost of this violence in their bodies now, not only those who were wounded and those who are bereaved, but an entire community who may now wonder whether gathering itself has become dangerous?

In a season like this, it matters that we speak plainly. This is horrific. This is violation. This is grief that does not obey our calendars. This is not our story to interpret; it is our responsibility to stand beside. Naming of a Day of Reflection is a reminder that public naming can be a form of honouring, especially when silence risks becoming a way of letting fear settle in unchallenged.

We often speak about light in December as though it is aesthetic, as though it belongs to mood and decoration, but the biblical imagination is sharper than that. Light, in the tradition of Israel and the Church, is never merely pretty; it is defiant, it is a refusal to accept that violence gets to name reality, and it is also a practice that forms the heart slowly, candle by candle, against despair. We can learn from our Jewish neighbours here without taking what is not ours; we can recognise that both traditions understand light as something held in the teeth of darkness, not as a denial of it.

Christmas, at its most uncompromising, is God choosing proximity rather than distance. The Word becomes flesh not in a world that has become safe, but in a world where empire still controls the air, where families are vulnerable, where political threat is stitched into ordinary life, and where motherhood itself can become a site of risk. Mary is a young woman whose yes is lived through uncertainty, danger, displacement, and the public vulnerability of carrying life. She is a witness to what it means to hold life tenderly when the world remains unstable, and to trust that God-with-us is not conditional on a peaceful society.

We also need to be unambiguous: antisemitism is a sin, and it must be named as such. It is not merely sad or divisive; it is an assault on human dignity and an affront to God, and we have a responsibility to refuse it.

In practical terms, solidarity is not a sentence; it is a posture that has weight. It looks like showing up at vigils or gatherings led by the Jewish community, respectfully and without making it about us. It looks like refusing jokes, stereotypes, and casual comments that allow contempt to breathe. It looks like teaching our children, in age-appropriate ways, that a violent act targeted Jewish people and that our response must be neighbourliness rather than suspicion, protection rather than distance. And it looks like guarding our own religious language from becoming a spiritual bypass, where hope is used as a way of avoiding the work of grief, accountability, and change.

As I move toward Christmas this year, I find myself praying for an honest heart. I want Advent candles that are not performative, but faithful; I want a hope that does not erase lament, but has the courage to stand inside it; and I want a solidarity that costs something, because anything cheaper than that is simply a gesture. At 6.47pm tonight I will light a candle with intention. Will you pause and reflect with me?

A prayer for this week:

God of Abraham and Sarah, God who hears the cry and gathers the broken, hold close the families who have lost beloved lives at Bondi, hold close the Jewish community carrying shock and sorrow, and hold close the wounded, the frightened, and the numb. Teach us not to rush grief into usefulness, teach us not to look away, and make our Advent waiting a practice of neighbour-love that is concrete, courageous, and enduring. As Christmas draws near, let the light we bear be solidarity that is more than words, and love that refuses to be selective. Amen.

Rites of Passage for young men

There comes a moment in every young man’s life when something shifts. His questions deepen, his choices begin to carry weight, and his world grows wider than his own reflection. Cultures recognised this moment and marked it – with blessing, with challenge, with community, with truth. Yet in the modern West, boys now cross these thresholds silently, often invisibly, without the ancient scaffolding that once shaped their hearts, imaginations, and moral lives. This is why rites of passage still matter. They are not decorative. They are transformative.

Across human history, ancient cultures developed extraordinary ways to guide boys into adulthood. Anthropologist Arnold van Gennep observed that all rites of passage share three movements: separation, transition, and reintegration. Victor Turner later named the in-between as liminality – that vulnerable, potent space where the old self falls away and the new self has not yet emerged. Nearly every civilisation created rituals to guide boys through this space: Jewish bar mitzvah grounding adulthood in Torah, memory, and responsibility; Indigenous initiation ceremonies teaching boys their place in Country, community, and Dreaming; medieval knighthood binding strength to virtue through vows. Although each tradition differed, all understood a common truth: a boy becomes a man not by age, but through formation. None of these rituals were merely symbolic; they were spiritual, ethical, and communal curricula designed to shape the soul. The question facing us now is simple: why did every culture consider this necessary?

Philosophers, too, recognised that growth requires guidance. Plato believed the soul must be trained in harmony – reason, emotion, and desire rightly ordered. Aristotle insisted that virtue is formed through practice and community. Confucius taught that moral adulthood arises through ritual, reverence, and relationship. Aquinas affirmed that grace builds on nature, that human development must be shaped, not assumed. In short, human beings do not simply mature. We are formed. And boys especially need frameworks that teach them how to channel strength toward goodness, passion toward responsibility, and freedom toward service. A rite of passage is the philosophical answer to the ancient human question: How does a boy become a man of character?

We now live in a world where achievement is celebrated but transformation is neglected; where behaviour is managed but identity is rarely named; where boys know how to perform but not always how to become. Without initiation, we end up with confidence without humility, independence without belonging, ambition without purpose, strength without tenderness, and adulthood without wisdom. The soul cannot thrive on self-construction alone. It needs communities that call forth what it cannot yet name in itself.

Scripture is thick with liminal moments: Jacob wrestling in the night, Moses before the burning bush, Samuel waking in the quiet temple, Mary listening in the hush of her room, Jesus standing in the Jordan. God meets people at thresholds. And so do rites of passage. This liminal space – neither child nor adult, neither old identity nor new – is spiritually potent. Turner writes that in liminality a person becomes both no longer and not yet. This is precisely where boys discover who they are, what they value, what they fear, what they hope for, and what they are capable of becoming. Rites of passage create a safe container for this sacred uncertainty.

In ancient cultures, elders stood at the centre of initiation, men who embodied the virtues boys were to learn: honour, courage, restraint, wisdom, compassion, perseverance. Today, many boys receive their so-called mentorship from social media, celebrity culture, or online influencers who profit from bravado, anger, or ego. A rite of passage restores the rightful place of elders: men who are good, steady, and reflective; men who show that strength can be gentle, responsibility can be joyful, and faith can be lived with humility. Young men deserve apprenticeship in goodness.

Ancient rites also understood that a rite without virtue is merely an event. They existed not to dramatize adulthood, but to anchor it. At their best, rites of passage gave boys courage shaped by conscience, strength shaped by service, freedom shaped by responsibility, identity shaped by community, purpose shaped by wisdom, and belonging shaped by story. The Christian tradition does the same. Jesus formed His disciples through experiences that demanded maturity, generosity, and courage a slow initiation into a new way of being human. This is the heart of every meaningful rite: not to impress a boy, but to awaken him.

We are living in a time of profound moral disorientation for young men — confusion about identity, expectation, purpose, and belonging. Rites of passage do not solve everything, but they create a pathway where none may exist. They tell a young man, You are not alone. You are capable of goodness. You are needed. You have responsibility. You are becoming. And perhaps most importantly: We see who you are becoming, and we bless it.

In a world starving for men of depth, tenderness, courage, and moral clarity, rites of passage are not quaint. They are essential. They return young men to themselves. They return them to community. They return them to God.

Through the glass we see

There’s a quiet truth about the soul that we often forget in the noise of our days: what we take in becomes what we see. The images we scroll past, the stories we repeat, the voices that fill our feed: all of them polish or cloud the lens through which we look at the world.

The ancients called this contemplation. To see rightly, however, in our modern age, we often confuse seeing with consuming. We devour content without noticing how it begins to devour us back, reshaping our instincts, dulling our compassion, training our gaze toward cynicism or spectacle.

Richard Rohr suggests that the way we see anything is the way we see everything. I interpret this to mean that our perception is never neutral. Our lens is a moral instrument. It is formed by love or by fear, by humility or by ego. What we see, we slowly become.

The lens as sacrament

Karl Rahner, one of my favourite theologians, proposed that the Christian of the future will be a mystic – or will not exist at all. By this he did not mean that we all must live in cloisters, rather that faith will depend on our ability to see God in all things, not just in churches or in moments of comfort or need.

Rahner’s mysticism is incarnational. He invites us to perceive the divine shimmering in the ordinary, to look at the world through a sacramental lens. The sacrament is not a magical object; it is an awakening of the eye. The bread and wine do not change so much as we are changed in beholding them.

So too with the world. What we choose to watch, read, or listen to either sharpens our sight toward grace or dulls it toward despair. Every image we absorb can become a tiny liturgy, forming us for heaven or numbing us to it.

Reframing the feed

Perhaps, then, the work of faith in this digital age is not only prayer but curation. A kind of spiritual editing.

When Rohr speaks of the contemplative mind, he describes a way of seeing that is patient, non-dual, and deeply attentive. It does not rush to judgment. It notices what is beneath the surface. To cultivate such sight is to resist the algorithms that reward outrage and performative virtue. It is to let silence interrupt the scroll, and wonder interrupt certainty.

Maybe the holiest act today is not to post more, but to perceive better. To ask: does what I read make me kinder? Does what I watch awaken gratitude or greed? Do the voices I follow lead me closer to compassion or to contempt?

The Gospel of Seeing

The Gospels are, at their core, a story of vision. Blind men see. Fishermen recognize the risen Christ not by argument, but by the breaking of bread. Mary Magdalene mistakes Jesus for the gardener until she hears her name and her eyes are opened.

To see rightly is not to have all the facts, but to encounter the truth in flesh and dust. To look at the world and whisper, with Rahner, God is here.

The invitation of Advent and really, of every day that dawns, is to cleanse the lens. To let grace reframe the gaze, resisting cynicism with wonder. To guard with intent what enters the heart through the eyes and ears.

Because faith, like sight, is learned and evolving. And what we see most often, we eventually start to believe.

The path and the shoes

A short reflection

There are times in life when we stand at the edge of a path and feel ready to walk. We’ve studied the map, packed what we think we’ll need, and set out with purpose, perhaps even with a little Louboutin in our stride. At other times, the path appears beneath our feet without warning — rough, uneven, and not of our choosing. We would never have picked it. Yet, somehow, it becomes ours.

The thing about the path is that we do not always have the luxury of choice. But perhaps we do get to choose our shoes.

Our shoes carry the marks of every place we’ve been. Some are well-worn with faith and friendship, sturdy Doc Martins that have trudged through muddy storms and stood their ground. Others still bear the blisters of loss, disappointment, or change. There are days we lace up determination, Converse-style, ready to take on the world one honest step at a time. Then there are moments when we slip into the elegance of Manolo Blahnik grace, steadying ourselves with beauty, dignity and maybe just a hint of humour at life’s absurdity.

Sometimes we have old favourites that encompass our feet in a warm sense of familiarity. Other times, we find ourselves breaking in new and unyielding leather that confines, restricts, impinges. Yet with time, even those begin to soften if we embrace the grace of persistence.

Whatever the path — rocky or smooth, certain or unknown — it is the shoes that help us walk it. They are our preparation, our prayer, our capacity to forgive and to hope. They are the habits we’ve formed in the quiet moments, the values stitched by those who have loved us into being.

Sometimes grace looks like a new pair of shoes — courage when we are tired, peace when the noise grows loud, compassion when our hearts harden. And sometimes grace is the barefoot walk — the holy ground where all we can do is trust that the One who walks beside us knows the way.

The Ugly Truth

We talk about the pursuit of Truth, of Veritas. When will we admit that Truth rarely comes dressed for dinner parties? It does not arrive ribbon-tied, polished, or polite. Think instead of Jesus on the cross: disfigured, broken, utterly human. Not a sight we would post on our Instagram feed or even on Facebook. And yet this is the greatest Truth of all.

The truth about a person is just as raw. To love is to love, not to curate, edit, or demand. Mel Robbins says it plainly enough: it’s not our job to change someone else. Every person carries ways of being that resonate with us and ways that jar against our sensibilities. Maybe the holier practice is not in reshaping others but in learning to sit with the jarring. Because running off to complain and demanding someone change? That doesn’t transform them, it simply breeds falseness. And falseness is a thin disguise that always wears through.

Jesus warned: take the plank out of your own eye first. Not a metaphor reserved for ‘those other people.’ He meant me. He meant you. We all drag around planks of our own: blind to their weight, yet others can see them clearly. Are we prepared to let Truth confront us? To be humbled by what it reveals? It hurts. But humility grows there, and humility – real humility – is aspirational, a trait worth pursuing with every fibre of our being.

Truth matters and is grounded in fact. Vanity does not and it crumbles under the weight of the cross. Truth endures, scars and all. Truth emerges from our brokenness. Truth is reflected in what we do SO much more than what we say. So ACT for Truth. And leave your fragile hang-ups at home.

As a friend once said, with more wisdom than I can muster:

It is a sad fact that the populous today try to make themselves look good by making other people look bad. They do not achieve anything themselves just mince around in their entitled angry little bubble. Trying to knock down everyone who achieves more than them, which is pretty much ‘everyone’. There is no sense of honour or majesty in those people, they wander around with superior self-importance while their soul shuffles around like a diseased rat.

Truth.

A prayer

Loving God,

We walk through life knowing the world holds illness, loss and struggle. Yet when those shadows touch our own circle, we feel the tremor of our own mortality and the fear of meaning slipping away. Suffering is not just pain but the unravelling of our story. Be with us as we stand beside one another in these unraveled places. May our presence, honesty and love be threads of hope that begin weaving meaning back together.

Amen.